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One of the most difficult challenges we face as human beings is learning how to remain open to life while knowing that life can hurt us. At some point, most of us experience a loss that changes our relationship with certainty. It may be a betrayal, a divorce, a health diagnosis, the death of a loved one, redundancy, financial hardship, or simply the collapse of a future we thought was guaranteed. Before these experiences, many people move through life with a relatively uncomp

What Decades of research from Shirley Glass, John Gottman, Sue Johnson and Esther Perel reveal about betrayal, trust and the role of therapy in recovery. When a couple walks into therapy after an affair, the question is rarely spoken aloud immediately. Instead, it sits quietly in the room. Can we survive this? Research suggests that many couples do. Yet survival and recovery are not the same thing. Over the past three decades, researchers and clinicians including Shirley Glas

Unlike human interpersonal interactions, AI doesn’t become hurt, defensive, confused, overwhelmed or contradictory. It doesn’t sit across from us saying: “I think you’re missing my experience here.” Instead, AI primarily works with the material we provide, which means the emotional framing inside the prompt we have given matters enormously.

A few clients have mentioned L-theanine to me recently. They’ve described less catastrophic thinking, fewer negative loops, more energy, and better sleep. Not a dramatic shift, but a noticeable one. It got me thinking about how much of what we experience as “thoughts” is actually shaped by the state of the nervous system underneath. When that state shifts, even slightly, the way thoughts land can change.

There are ways some of us experience the world that do not fit neatly into language. Ways of knowing that arrive before thought. Ways of feeling that move through the body before they are understood. Ways of sensing that seem to come from somewhere both within and beyond.